Claremont SAA

Together We Can Recover!

A Special Welcome To Women

Welcome! You have taken a brave step reading our website or attending our meeting today, and we support your search for recovery. If you have a desire to stop addictive sexual behavior of any type, you are welcome here. We urge you to give our program a try. It has helped many other women—of all ages, backgrounds and sexual orientation—find recovery from sexual addiction.

Because the first meeting can feel overwhelming, we recommend coming to at least six meetings in the first six weeks before deciding whether SAA is for you. Be gentle with yourself and give yourself time to listen to others’ stories and to absorb the introductory literature. If you are like most of us, you did not get to where you are overnight. It will take time to orient yourself to the program and this new way of life-recovery.

Obsession, fantasy, promiscuity, compulsive masturbation, use of pornography, exhibitionism, voyeurism, abusive sex with self or others, addictive relationships, and/or other sexual acting-out behaviors were quick fixes for the pain in our lives. These led, however to ever more pain, shame and isolation, in a vicious circle. In recovery, we learn to break that cycle and to live in the light of reality. We learned a completely new way of life, based on spiritual principles. We do not offer a quick fix or cure for addiction. We have found, however, that as we embarked on the adventure of recovery, our shame and compulsions lessened, or were removed. One day at a time, we learned honesty, self-love, and integrity, and enjoyed acceptance, love, and fellowship of those who understood us as few others could.

Common Questions Women Usually Have

The stigma for female sex addicts might feel uncomfortable to you. There might be only a few other women in the room with several men, that does not mean that you don’t fit in, and that you couldn’t possibly be a sex addict or that the program can’t work for you.

We recommend attending at least six meeting in the first six weeks before deciding whether SAA is for you.

Be gentle with yourself and give yourself time to listen to other stories. If you’re like most of us, you did not get to where you are overnight. It will take time to orient yourself to this program and this new way of life—recovery.

Many women feel uncomfortable speaking in front of men at all. The challenge could be even greater when speaking openly about sexual issues, as we do in SAA. Many men are uncomfortable sharing too, but the urge to keep silence can be especially strong for women. Of course you don’t have to speak at meetings and are always free to pass, but our experience has shown that the compulsivity associated with sexual addiction can best be healed by sharing openly with others, for our recovery depends on it.

Many women fear triggering others present and attracting unwanted sexual attention. Many of us come to SAA burdened by the belief that we are responsible for the sexual feelings and behaviors of others. In SAA, we learned to be accountable for our own feeling and behaviors, and to let go of unhealthy responsibility from others.

Some of us do feel superficially comfortable at mixed gender meetings. For example, if we have experienced abuse by women in the past, we may feel more safe with men in general.

For many straight women, our acting out patterns lead us to identify with men much more than with women. Some women may feel attracted to others at the meetings, especially if we had acted out with other sex addicts as part of our addictive pattern. Such feelings of attraction are an aspect of being triggered. If this is the case for you, be gentle with yourself. You are not abnormal. In recovery we learn to cope with similar triggers in a new healthier way. We learn how to relate to other sex addicts in a safe, non-sexualized way, which can be an enormous benefit to our overall recovery, regardless your sexual orientation or acting out patterns.

Some of us at times, have felt directly intimidated, threatened, or harassed by another member of the group. This is not the norm at our meetings, but if it occurs trust your judgement and take immediate steps to protect your safety. When in doubt check it out with a trusted servant, another member or your sponsor.

Group experience has shown that “unsafe” people who are not really interested in recovery do not find what they are looking for in SAA and do not tend to stay with the group for long. Therefore, if at all possible we urge you to hang in there, keep in contact with safe group members, and take care of yourself and trust the process. As a final note, some women feel uncomfortable placing their number on the group list, you may choose to instead give your phone number out only to trusted members who you select.

At many meeting it is customary to close by standing in a circle holding hands and recite the Serenity Prayer. This is a symbol of our unity and mutual support in recovery from sexual addiction. However, many people especially women, may be uncomfortable with this physical contact especially at first. No one is required to participate. It is perfectly acceptable to remain silent or remain outside the circle.

Women

A Safe & Sober Mixed Gender Meeting

Friday Night

A Special Welcome For the Woman Newcomer From Other Women Members of Sex Addicts Anonymous

If you have a desire to stop addictive sexual behavior of any type you are welcome here. We urge you to give our program a try. It has helped many women from all backgrounds and sexual orientations find recovery from sexual addiction.You are not alone any longer.

Fellowship

7:00 PM

Meeting

7:30 - 8:45 PM

Location

Claremont United Church of Christ
233 W. Harrison Avenue
Claremont, CA 91711

Room

Upstairs Room 206

Meeting Type

Mixed (Women and Men)
Closed
(Only those seeking help or questioning if you are a sex addict please)

Meeting Info

Friday Diagram

Parking is marked with blue lines.
The entrance to the building is marked with a red X.
The meeting room is marked with a green dot.

(We are not affiliated with Claremont United Church of Christ; we are just a renter of meeting space)

Friday Meeting Location